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Stop saying "thank you so much" in your pay review

Published 6 months agoΒ β€’Β 1 min read

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Pay negotiation.
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This isn't entitlement. It's maths. I learned this the hard way.

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Hey Sparklers,

Quick one for you because it's that time of year.

And if you're reading this thinking 'my review isn't until January' - that's exactly why you need to read this NOW.

End of year reviews. Conversations about compensation. The bit where you sit across from your manager and either advocate for yourself or… don't.

I've watched too many smart women fumble this moment (me included). They walk in hopeful.
They walk out saying "thank you so much" for whatever number they were handed, like it was a favour, not a transaction.

You were hired at a price. That price was based on who you were then.

If you've grown since, delivered more, solved harder problems, taken on more responsibility, the price has changed.
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​That's not entitlement. That's just maths.

But most people blow it because they lead with feelings instead of strategy.

"I feel like I deserve more" = you've already lost the room.

"Based on the data, I'm compensated 30% below market rate and I'd like to discuss closing that gap" = NOW we're in business.

I learned this the hard way early in my career.
Found out I was being paid 30% less than a bloke doing the same job. Same title. Less experience than me. But somehow worth more.

Went home and cried. Then got angry. Then got tactical.

Started tracking every win. Built a one-page case. Practised the exact words until they didn't come out with the wobbles and tears.

Here's the opener that changed everything for me:

"I'd like to discuss aligning my compensation with my current contributions and market rate."

Not feelings. Facts.

I've made an 8-minute video breaking down exactly how to do this - how to prepare, how to practise, and how to walk in with the confidence to walk away if you need to.

WATCH: My Career Advice for Anyone That's Underpaid or Needs to Re-negotiate Their Pay​
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Because you're worth it.

(L'OrΓ©al doesn't pay me. But they should.)

Please watch the video. Subscribe if it resonates. Share it with someone who needs a nudge.
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This is my 2nd YouTube video on my channel - it's early days and so I really appreciate the support!​
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​Sparkle on.πŸ’Ž

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P.S. - If you forward this to one woman who needs it, you might just change the trajectory of her entire career. Just saying.
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